Surround yourself with positivity

Last year was very negative for me, I was in a relationship that was extremely toxic and my life just seemed to take turns that I couldn’t control, I felt entirely worthless and completely broken. I was lucky enough to have people around me that felt like sunshine. People that allowed me to stay strong and control those impossible demons that controlled every thought. They shared my burden and to everyone one of them I will be forever grateful.

This bank holiday weekend I wish I could bottle it up and open it whenever I feel like life is getting to much. I’ve spent time with people that have most amazing energy and have truly made me happy.

Surround yourself with positivity, I am so grateful to every person in my life right now. You all make everyday so much brighter for me. I’m excited for life again!

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Thank u, next

So I met this guy let’s call him Kyle,

Id been speaking to him for quite a while.

He was everything that I’d dreamed about,

Until I went down his phone and found him out.

So he panicked and got down on one knee,

I said yes, oh yipee.

So let’s fast forward 2 years down the line,

Turns out for murder I’d get less time.

One of our mates, he was having a baby,

So I left poor Kyle with a maybe?

So it’s a fortnight later and I’m feeling a bit blue,

I make a call to Kyle, with an apology or two.

I had to leave him all by him self,

So now there’s me back on the shelf.

Well it didn’t take long and I’m dating his mate,

For arguments sake let’s call him Nate.

Well what a load of drama that turned out to be,

Arguement after arguement, never him, always me.

So the drama continues and now it’s all done,

What a different person I’ve become.

I’ve hit rock bottom, and I’ve fallen down,

But in the end I’ll wear the crown.

So remember your self worth, and carry a smile,

And if you’re sad, Ben and Jerry is down the frozen isle.

Take a moment

Just stop. Breathe. Focus. Reconnect. Open your mind. Smile. Appreciate. Learn.

Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in. Breathe out.

Make time for yourself. For your mental health. Your happiness. Your well-being.

Isn’t dating weird

So for the first time in my adult life I am single. Before this Tinder, bumble, Hinge etc weren’t even a thing, how did it get to this point. Literally within half a second I’m judging someone based on the way that they look, deciding whether or not I would like to match with them, and if I do, the conversation is flatter than my arse.

What ever happened to meeting people organically. The problem with these apps is, you can be talking to someone, go on a date and then. Bam. Ghosted. They fall flat off the face of the earth. I understand I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, My personality is probably more than a lot of people can handle. But still. Seriously. You have to actually explain to each other that you are exclusive so that the other person deletes these apps. Honestly this world is insane.

These last few months I have met some right characters. I had one date and the guy wouldn’t leave (note to self: never let someone in your house on a first date) then asked my mum if she wanted to make a cake. I had another one where on a first date they introduced me as their girlfriend to people and they were constantly calling, texting, messaging and I just couldn’t catch a break literally blocked them from every single platform I had. I’m starting to lose trust in men altogether if I’m honest.

But seriously what is this world of dating, it’s all so strange to me. I think I’ll stick to Netflix and ice cream from now on.

Reading into it 😏

Ever got one of them texts and you over analyse till you go crazy? And then it turns out they are actually gay or married with 12 kids and you thought they were the one? Yeah well get the hell over it. Stop reading into things, people lie, people say things that make people think they are good people. Don’t misread simple conversations. If I’ve learnt anything it’s that you should take everything at face value and if it turns out different then that’s a bonus, if not oh well. You are worth so much more than undertones. If they fancy you they will tell you. Don’t obsess over the ‘hey girl’ texts. He meant hey girl. Not hey girl come here and love me. Love yourself first and if they love you then fab if not, you’re a rockstar anyways who cares. Sometimes we think we need validation from someone to feel our best selfs, you don’t. You need to look in the mirror and say ‘baby girl you are amazing and everyday you get better and better and nobody’s ever gonna be as into you as you are’. Wake up tomorrow with the attitude that you are the best thing in your damn life and enjoy every single second of being yourself.

Men suffer too

This past week the tragic news of Mike Thalassitis broke and to hear that he had been suffering with his mental health really struck me. From the outside looking in Mike seems like a happy go lucky lad with everything going for him, yet inside it was turmoil. We hear lots of women speaking out about how they are suffering with anxiety etc and this seems completely normal. However, we expect men to be strong, we expect them to be a man and to be our protectors. Society these days has created a stigma around men’s mental health, and how if a man is suffering it is seen as weak. A man suffering with their mental health and speaking about it is not weak, it’s strong and brave.

I encourage every single man that feels like they are suffering to speak out, and encourage their friends to do the same. Girls we will always pick up the phone to check up on our bestie, pick up that phone and ring the men in your life. And boys check up on the lads, drop them a text, invite them out for a pint and just chat. Sometimes one conversation can save someone’s life.

Imagine someone was sitting on top of a bridge about to jump off and end their life. Would you walk past and pretend that it wasn’t happening? Or would you stop and encourage that person to get down and give them the help that they need? The majority of us would stop. So when you’re mate seems quieter than usual don’t ignore it, ask them the question ‘hows things?’ You could be that person that makes them realise it’s not so bad.

Please just check in, drop a text, pick up the phone, we spend endless hours on social media, take a minute out of that just to send that message.

And please, if anyone needs someone to talk to just drop me a DM on insta and I’ll try to brighten your day xxxxxxxx

A positive perspective

It hurts

It’s making me stronger

It’s not going to end

Everything ends, this is temporary

They hate me

They are busy, calm down and breath.

They don’t understand

Explain it in a different way, relate to them.

It’s never going to get better

It will get better, nothing is bad all of the time .

Sometimes our brains instantly think of the negative in a situation. When you next get a thought that’s intrusive and self demeaning, replace it with with a positive, or a more constructive sentence in your head. Eventually your mind will start to think of the positives as a default. Don’t ever give up being nice to yourself! You are the centre of your own world and you need to protect it.